Our life begins crying. It is a sign that all is well. But there is another aspect to it. We cry to seek attention. The moment we open our eyes we first see our parents. That begins the true relation with them.
We have friends, family, colleagues, spouse, children and many such relations in our life. They also define the various roles we play in our lives. Each relation demands something. This “something” isn’t really well defined. As a result we often end up saying, “ I don’t know what she wants from me” ,
“ You will never understand me” and all such vague statements. But why are they vague, it is because comprehending the other person’s thoughts is next to impossible. So how do we overcome this problem? After all we have to live in a society and be together with everyone.
I believe from what I have understood so far is that it is not the literally possible to understand anyone, but there are two important things that must keep in mind to make relations successful.
First and the foremost is NOT TO TAKE ANYONE FOR GRANTED. Be it your parents, Friends, Siblings or your spouse. Each one of these is a very close relation. But when someone begins to take it for granted, that’s where the problem starts. It is this factor which leads to most of the relationship ambiguities. At times we get so close to someone that we what they say, what they do just doesn’t bother us at all. It is only when we suddenly loose them we realize how important they are to us. We must always respect the other person and his or her feelings for us.
The second reason is the lack of TIME spent together. This time is not being merely present, but a heart to heart conversation. Just asking the other person what and how he or she feels. It connects the two people instantly. It is a sincere effort made by both the persons to know each other well.
I just hope we all connect with all in our life and stay happy :) :)
